SHACK 4121 FOIBLES

Courtesy Career Launcher

 Some folk say that the quirk's and foibles make you either love them, hate them or avoid them. Sometimes these are copied from parents, friends, movies and life's coping mechanisms. I have seen in myself and others its a way of attracting attention or getting applause and in some ways to get the love and attention we may have lacked in our early years.

I realised that I started to employ foibles to fill the gap of emotional upsets and hurt especially being socially awkward and not having role models to serve my needs and vulnerabilities. Some people say that if you do not have traits and are bland in character you can be ignored and become isolated and it can cause a lack of self confidence and on the other hand having very strong characteristics can make one bloated with self importance and become egotistic even to the point of being a bully and pugilistic.

Many a celebrity either in politics, theatre and sport have very obvious foibles and have earned them their fame and living. Is this who they really are? Well from the point of view for those on the path to self realisation or enlightenment or who are we in essence, these aspects, the quirks and behavioural eccentricities are part of 'normal tolerable behaviour' however taken to extremes can be a psychosis or beginning of an antisocial problem.

To the serious aspirant into the essence of who are we, these when recognised and seen in others and in oneself have no such place in the agenda to enlightenment and satori, this has led to many being called queer, weird and can lead the aspirant to isolation or move to more natural surroundings and be part of the path to tread.

Many of these traits can lead to society being made up of emotional needy persons, these traits can become a reality and auto response and so become an apparent spontaneous  everyday behaviour which may annoy others but bring comfort to a natural or seeming natural everyday coping mechanism to life.

When I became aware of my foibles I found they were not self serving to my peace of mind, they did when I was not aware of them they were my life and need for them to be socially interact with people, they were how people saw me so I thought and accepted them as my personality and who I was. Unfortunately when I became more aware or sensitive I found that I began to shed some of them and those especially in my romantic relationships seemed to 'turn' my girl friends or mates off and say ' you've changed your not the same person I knew, are you OK'.  I tried to explain what I found in myself and in others and many of them thought I was ill or going after something that most of society did not do and I was a sort of outcast. Yet something in me felt it was right, many a time I questioned that it was right for me and there were times of extreme doubt, isolation, fear and all sorts of anxieties and yet there was this deep instinct and silent urge to keep on keeping on.

I am still shedding foibles and seeing the waste of time and energy they used to afford me. I do not know where I am and it seems OK and planning and resorting back is not a agreeable option and I guess I am will keep shedding until there is a something other. Perhaps until Geoff is Freed.

SHACK  aka  GEOFF