Many
years back the late Krishnamurti said’ we find ourselves in the mirror of
relationships’ and another quote from a book gone by ‘things change only in relationship
to one another’.
I
have given an example as ice cubes in a jar and as they are put in fresh their sides interface with each other. As the cubes begin to melt their interfaces
change and adapt.
In
humans we tend to relate from our belief systems and recognise these with
others, if we have the same creeds, politics, culture it is easier to relate
and even in some cases be tolerant to other exposures. The cubes stick to their interface as it where, I will not change, er, maybe a little.
Should
we be more open and not so rigid to our stance which are related and driven by
our conscious and unconscious reactions which we think is us and we really
listen without a background agenda, which is difficult to do and not butt in or
at least hold back forcing oneself to listen and then a burst and tirade of
argument and not quiet discussion then we may miss the lesson of ‘questioning’
where did their beliefs and my beliefs come from and why am I so belligerent and
feel threatened? We may come to see in
this mirror that this relationship has made me question who I am and where did
I get these beliefs I have?
It
may dawn on one that I was taught these beliefs as is this person who has their
beliefs taught to them. Who has the
correct and right belief if one is just a parrot and just takes the brain
washing, indoctrination and conditioning, yes social grooming. Can one go back
to who am I when I look at anyone’s mirror and see past mine, the dust on my mirror and their dust
which obscures the clear communication between us.
When
one sees clearly that the fog between us, the dust is a distortion and is a
divider and could lead to wars, animosity, racial abuse and so on should we not
use the duster to clean the mirror and so thereby live harmoniously without the
acrimony of stiff outdated beliefs that separate one another from true
compassion and harmony.
So
if one wishes to explore the possibility of harmony and compassion we may have
to look at the second quote; if we are open and looking in the mirror then this
affords us to learn and change (not into either belief system) by the
opportunity afforded by the relationship to another.
This
starts a process of self discovery and then if it is pursued with an openness
to learn not by concepts but by feelings and discussion that this process leads
to the mind that was and is pristine and a wisdom that comes from a relatively
unbiased belief system.
This
maybe rare and one may face challenges especially from those entrenched in
their own mind sets whether they appear holy, morally (whose morals and from
what culture) correct, politically viable, atheistic or religious and so
on. One will know because as the
shackles of prejudice and opinionated jaundice begin to fall away a natural
freedom of mind filled with joy, peace and compassion (not fuelled by a
religious fervour of righteousness—I must love and do good my holy book and
saviour said so and I will rebel if they oppose my faith or at least go out and
proselyte) this mind of the free from most beliefs begins to run clear as stream
and its water bring life and nourishment to all who sip of its succour.
SHACK
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